Fertility Blog

There is nothing worse than feeling like the whole world is against you.  But this is how I was feeling on the night of my 37th birthday.  We had finally gotten pregnant – well our surrogate had.  This was after 4 years of struggling with infertility and being forced down the...

We’ve all been stuck in one of those conversations where it’s all about babies, breastfeeding, birth experiences, pregnancy horror stories, and the challenges and joys of parenting.  You can’t escape, so you merely nod politely.  It feels like everyone is watching you,...

I know this is going to be a sensitive blog because I’ve already felt the judgement and wrath of women who disagree with my point of view on this subject.  I’ve written posts and blogs giving women permission to NOT go to that baby shower, and for every 10 comments of gratitude I...

Infertility and pregnancy loss can be heavy.  There are so many mixed emotions that we’re faced with.  But the heaviest thing that we all seem to carry, is guilt.  We punish ourselves for so much.  We have regrets.

But a lot of the time, we blame ourselves for things...

I know we’re not supposed to say this out loud, but while I was on my fertility journey, I was SO jealous of women who were able to get pregnant so easily.  And I’ll go even further and say that I actually resented the fact that they didn’t have to go through the shit I had...

Why are we so mean to ourselves?

I never really noticed that voice in my head before infertility and loss came along.  So maybe I used to be kind to myself at one time.  But after years of fertility treatments, and feeling like a failure, the noise became too loud to ignore.  The...

Infertility is……..complicated.  The main reason is because there are so many big emotions.  And because we spend most of our young adult life assuming we’ll have children when the time is right, it’s a kick in the gut when we struggle.  Trying to reconcile...

I’m not the most patient person in the world.  Actually, that’s a bit of an understatement.  I’m very impatient, and I like efficiency. When my husband suggests we do two trips to the car when we’re packing to go away on holiday, I literally cringe.  Surely,...

One of the hardest things, when you’re going through infertility or loss, is watching other people getting pregnant.  It hurts so much and can send us into a spiral for weeks on end.  There is so much shame, guilt, sadness, jealousy, and anger we experience along the way. 

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Christmas used to be my favorite time of the year.  You walk through shopping centers and Christmas carols are being piped over the loudspeaker.  Santa clause is posing with small children who are either idolizing him, or terrified of him.  The sparkling decorations are draped from...

How many times have you found yourself getting ready to go out to dinner with a group of girlfriends, and absolutely dreading it?  Or how about that sickening feeling in the pit of your stomach when you walk through the door of your cousin’s gender reveal?

If you’re going through...

If you’re anything like me, the idea of accepting help makes you feel physically ill. You’ll wait until you’re at rock bottom, completely overwhelmed, covered in blood, sweat and tears, dragging yourself along the ground to that finish line……..before you even admit...